Emotional And Energetic Properties
The secrets of ylang ylang oil are concealed in plain sight. Her name betrays her. It comes from the Filipino word alang-ilang describing how the flowers of the enormous tree flutter in the breeze. Her English name is rhythmical like that of a heartbeat betraying her cardiac and circulatory effects.
Every aspect of ylang ylang can be visualised in a picture of a tropical breeze. Feminine and bewitching, a temptress no less, ylang ylang floats you into a drowsy and heady fantasy. Beware though, her effects are intense and use too much and it verges on being nauseous.
Her energy is gentle yet irresistible; warm but cooling; it is energetic yet relaxing. Negativity wafts away on her breath. Delicately, she strokes your brow and welcomes sleep.
The name also means Perfumed One, and fragrance of the ylang ylang tree drifts across evenings in a seductive and beguiling dream. Since the mind and spirit rejoice in sweet fragrances, ylang ylang draws forth a mesmeric and hypnotic euphoria.
Her blissful embrace soothes away anger and irritation and calms the very deepest anxiety. It’s narcotic, bracing and slowing. Her balancing nature has been used for centuries to calm the mind and body.
There is something very pacifying about ylang ylang. Where in everyday life, a person may feel they are in opposition to everyone around them, her fragrance drifts past and they seem to relax their shoulders, take a deep breath and simply let it go.
Where you feel vulnerable, ylang ylang wraps you in her almost cloying embrace and reminds you that you are never alone .
Valerie Ann Worwood describes how ylang ylang “may soften the hard-hearted and allow those who use judgement against others to feel the soft seduction of heaven.”
Attention seeking children can be calmed by ylang ylang. It’s almost as if it creates a kind of inner reliance and shifts the need to feel special into simply feeling special. It has an innate gift of teaching people about their boundaries: the need to create one’s own boundary and keep one’s own stuff within it, and how to respect other people’s.
It’s a very useful essential oil to help people build healthier relationships. It seems to understand the nature of give-and-take. It allows you to give generously but also encourages you to receive love and admiration.
Ylang ylang also encourages introspection and makes you aware of the ways you are playing politics with friends and loved ones. Gently it turns attention inward to ask you to see where this behaviour comes from, and what you are trying to gain from it.
There is something of a tonic against indulgence with ylang ylang. Perhaps the oil recognises extravagance through her own sickly sweetness. For her energy is very useful for spoiled behaviour, or likewise for hypochondria where insecurity rejoices in over attention.
With her innate sexual nature, inextricable from it seductive fragrance, ylang ylang naturally vibrates on the sacral chakra. Here, we see how she can help with intimacy by calming fear of intimacy and subtly addressing feelings of jealousy.
Every essential oil has her own theme and a very clear set of actions. However, ylang ylang’s balancing action is her theme. Everything about it is balancing, from balancing out combinations in the skin, to balancing emotions.
She reduces anger and helps you to see a more balanced viewpoint.